Christmas is the perfect time of year to show your devotion to someone you love. This season give your lover control of your holiday by offering your servitude in order to make them happy. Dominance and submission is something that is considered taboo by many though it is also something that more and more people are exploring.
If you are one of those people, take the time to learn more about your interests by offering submission during the holiday season. Take it as far as you feel comfortable. You might decide on bedroom fun or you might decide you want to be pleasing in as many ways as possible.
The wonderful thing about dominance and submission is that it is largely mental. Control comes from within. Of course, this lesson is often not learned until you have been practicing the D/s lifestyle for many years. When you begin and even as you progress you often find yourself selecting toys and equipment to produce feelings in your submissive or Dominant.
If you are a beginner you should buy your equipment accordingly. When choosing restraints make sure that you buy something that appears comfortable and has an easy way out. If you buy metal, police handcuffs, for example, make sure that when locked you have the key around the dominant's neck so that it cannot get lost. Fetish bondage sets for beginners are also good, too. These are generally not strong enough to cause a problem if you need to be released quickly. In most cases you should be able to cut these with scissors to release them.
As you advance in your interests it is likely you will avoid these kits and go for the specific items instead. If you want leather restraints, make sure the leather is of good quality, but that it is soft enough to prevent chaffing. As you move on in your exploration you may want to consider bondage using rope or other restraint methods. No matter what you choose you should make sure you have a way to be released Other items which delve into restraints and sensory deprivation include blindfolds. A blindfold is the most common BDSM-themed item you can purchase. This small item will heighten your other senses and allow your dominant the element of surprise.
As you move on in your experience level you might find your dominant prefers mental blindness as opposed to covering your eyes with something. Either way the idea will produce somewhat similar results. If you are presenting yourself to your dominant you might wish to offer yourself in a leather collar and leash.
You can offer the leash to your dominant to let them lead you where they wish to. A collar offered in this manner is similar to sexual based BDSM play. Collars are good for fetish games and to be led around by a leash.
However, they are also a sign of being owned. Traditionally, a submissive would not presume to purchase a collar for their dominant to give them. Many people in BDSM see collars like a person might see a wedding ring. While this will not affect your season now, you might want to keep that in mind if you determine that you enjoy exploring in this manner. Tis the season to be pleasing is all about offering your lover your submission for Christmas.
Some wonderful tools to offer your new dominant would be spanking toys. Riding crops, paddle, and floggers are good choices for newer dominants. Small smacks on the bottom are always a good way to start. You should never, ever use a whip if you are new to BDSM.
It is easy to cause serious damage with a whip if you do not know how to use one. Once you've compiled some excellent gifts you can present your toy bag and offer your dominant lover your submission this season. You may find that it last much longer than Christmas time or you might decide to do it only when the mood strikes you. Either way, make sure to play safe and adhere to all the safety rules that come with the toys you purchase. Whether you become enthralled and never want to stop or just think it's mildly amusing, it's sure to be an experience you will never forget!.
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