Just the other day, another woman reached out to me after a recent break up. "I gave him the best years of my life," she told me. So many women believe this lie that is simple not true. You choose the best years of your life, and whether they are behind you or yet to come.
So, you are getting older by the minute and cannot reclaim your youth. But happiness is found in our experiences and our attitude, not our age. By learning how to attract and maintain a good relationship, you will have a happier future and avoid the heartache. Many people believe that once they reach a certain age, they can't fix the bad habits they have, like smoking, falling into bad relationships, or over eating. They become an unchangeable part of who they are, and they accept the all too often horrific consequences that go along with the bad habit. They'll say things like, "It's too late for me to quit smoking," or, "I'm to old to gain back my youthful figure.
" It is never too late and we are never too old to make the changes to better our future. There was an 83 year old gentleman who was a part of my church who was homebound. With the encouragement of some members of the congregation, he was able to give up smoking, a habit he had for many years. With in a matter of weeks, he was out playing golf again, something he hadn't done in years! It's wonderful that this gentleman accepted the support and encouragement of those who loved him, took the necessary steps to change things, and regained his life. It's just unfortunate that he didn't do it sooner. Imagine the years wasted being homebound.
In relationships, the best years of your life cannot be determined by age. A lady I know found herself single again. Instead of shutting down and refusing to go on, she continued finding ways to enjoy her life.
Due to her active lifestyle, she eventually married again- in her 80's! She and her new husband have a great life together, including riding their motorcycles around the country. If 80 year olds are still capable of bettering their lives and even finding love, so are you. All it takes is knowing the steps necessary to make real changes, having a good attitude, and having ample support while doing so. Life really is what you make of it.
You choose the best years of your life. With this in mind, the best is always yet to come.
Healing from a break up? Choose to make your next relationship a happy one. Wendy Bridger, MSSW, will show you how to discover your soulmate and yourself in "Get the Right Guy for the Real You."